As we all #StayatHome, there is a lot of discussion about how to stay safe with family, support friends and generally try and live as normal a life as possible within the confines of your home.
And it hasn’t been that easy, has it? There is a huge demographic of people, especially in London, that we can forget about. People that live alone.
Isolation vs loneliness
As a counsellor in London, clients have come to me and expressed worry about the possibility of self-isolation.
Without work or the freedom to go outside, they won’t see or talk to anyone in-person for weeks. This becomes even more difficult when the majority of Londoners don’t even have their own outside space.
Add to that the fact that friends and relatives are going to be struggling to keep their own families buoyant during this time, this restricts the option of connection for people living alone, making it a very lonely time.
So here are my tips to keep emotionally safe when you live alone.
Reach out for help
Most of the population are going to be stressed and irritable with or without people around them. So, try and set up a network of friends, relatives and colleagues who you can rely on to support you in this time.
Connect to yourself without distraction
You are going to have a lot of time on your own and without knowing what you want, you will not know the next steps to get out of that feeling of disempowerment and melancholia.
Without the distractions, you can dedicate some time to get things done that would lead to gaining an element of empowerment and control.
Exercise has been linked to a release of endorphins and serotonin which is what makes you feel safe, happy and content.
You might not have a home gym or any exercise equipment, but try being a bit more active in your house.
There are lots of resources online that can help with keeping fit without any equipment. Remember to look after both your brain and body during this time.
Reframe your expectations
If you don’t feel like you are achieving anything whilst you’re stuck indoors, it will leave you feeling powerless. Add to that the self-isolation, you could find yourself feeling pretty down.
Rather than focusing on the long term and that sense of unknowing and disempowerment, start focusing instead on those short term wins. Such as a burst of HiT exercise, cleaning your home or even speaking to a friend.
Every single one of these achievements will be important in your overall sense of happiness and wellbeing during this time.
Reach out to others
Just like you, there will be lots of people out there that will be feeling isolated and alone during this time.
I know that you won’t be able to physically see each other but that doesn’t mean you can’t connect via a different media. Use this time to connect with those people and help each other during isolation.
A Zoom chat or Google Hangout can be a fun way to catch up with a group of friends or family.
Really, this list is all about helping you to gain an element of control. None of us has real control over the Coronavirus, but let’s try and gain an element of sanctity and security during this pressured time.
Therapy in London