Frustration is a part of life that you have probably constantly been told to run away from.
Just like all of those other negative and hard to deal with emotions, you have been told not to feel frustrated or just be happy and forget about it.
Yet, if you don’t feel frustration it will come up again and again in all different parts of your life.
This is why many people get frustrated, irritable or angry about things which you know are inconsequential. In fact, road rage is a very common example of not dealing with frustration.
The main part of my work as a counsellor is to help others see their more negative emotions as a productive force within their lives.
Frustration is trying to tell you that there is something that you need to sort out and fix. Yet, because you have not been taught how to use frustration, it comes up again and again.
And this doesn’t have to be in that same situation, but any situation that remotely resembles it.
Use Your Frustration
If you were to see the frustration in a different way, it might make it easier. Say, for example, someone poked you with a stick. You wouldn’t just ignore it, instead, you would step away and tell that person to stop.
So, why when it is something physical it is OK to listen to your emotions but not when it is something you can’t see or feel?
Instead of trying to put the frustration to the back of your mind, start trying to understand and use it’s message in a positive way.
For example, if you feel frustrated with someone, maybe it’s time to have a chat with them about how you feel.
And the more you discuss to resolve the situations you are frustrated with, the more enjoyable your life will be.
Ask yourself: What parts of your life are you frustrated with and how could you start to change them?