Everyone has hopes and dreams. Yet how is it that some people achieve their dreams and others don’t?
One of the main reasons is that they try. Therefore ask yourself, why not try?
For many the thought of failing is so binding and fills you with dread and anxiety, that we are unable able to.
What I want to look at are the most common reasons that stop people from trying.
The stories we tell
Many tell themselves the same story over and over again such as:
It will never work, I don’t have the ability, I am not clever enough, I don’t have the confidence, I am not good enough.
Do any of these sound familiar?
Are these statements true or are they just the stories you tell yourself?
Fear of failure
Society has been conditioned to think that failure is bad and that it should be avoided it at all costs.
When actually, failure is a valuable learning experience which leads to growth and change.
How can I change, change?
The first step to change is to know yourself, know your own, morals, values, opinions and drivers.
While doing this notice the difference between your thoughts and feelings and those that have been expressed by other people. Ask yourself, how much do you believe in those ideals or are yours different?
Now you know what you want and have started to dissociate yourself from others’ thoughts, opinions and ideals, the next thing to look at are your fears.
Ask yourself: Why don’t you feel good enough to try? What would happen if you fail? What’s stopping you from trying again? Where do these thoughts and feelings about your ability come from? Why do you believe them? Are they really you?
Don’t see these as part of your identity if you don’t want them to be.
Remember, not trying is the biggest failure of all.