Rather than feeling annoyed, angry and frustrated start using the message of Annoyance to better your life. – Therapy in London
If you want to stop feeling annoyed at every little thing, this is my two-step process to banish annoyance from your life forever.
Ok, so when you feel annoyed, do you automatically try your best to not feel that way? This is pretty common as you’ve probably been told to get away from being annoyed as quickly as possible and just be happy.
The most common reason for getting annoyed can be because something has happened that you feel is unfair to you.
Showing you a message
Feeling annoyed is simply trying to show you there is something wrong that needs fixing. Rather than stopping yourself from feeling annoyed, firstly use it to amend the part of your life that is making you feel that way.
This is difficult in itself, but doing this will lead you to the following step, which is to use the annoyance to stop yourself getting into the same situation again.
This will allow you to take some control back and prevent you from feeling annoyed in the future.
This is a fail-safe way to find success in your life as knowing what to do in any difficult and annoying situations will stop you from creating the same negative patterns for yourself.
Once you can do this you can have confidence in knowing that no matter what happens you have what it takes to get through it.
Next, ask yourself how you can never feel annoyed by each situation again.
For example, if you feel annoyed at a friend for always being late, why not talk to them and ask why they are always late? And if they keep being late, give them a consequence, such as I will go home if you make me wait more than 15 mins.
This will boost a change in behaviour which may result in confrontation, but these situations must be encouraged to make a change.
The irony is that being annoyed is trying to help you to make your life easier, more streamlined and happier, and these confrontations will help achieve that.
Eventually, you’ll thrive on feeling annoyed as you will know from it that you can make a change in order to grow and develop.